Happy NonMom’s Day

I remember buying myself a rose about ten years after my own mother’s suicide, in a gesture of Mothering Myself. Doreen Phelan, right up to her 51st year, wasn’t much of a nurturer, probably because HER mother didn’t cuddle her. These things can travel vertically through the generations unless violently uprooted.

So, I got “Livin’ Easy” and was thrilled at how the car smelled when I drove it home. It still lives in the yard, much reduced, whereas its hardy rootstock is fleurishing redly among the tea roses. I learned to check very carefully the rating of the roses I bought thereafter. Ones such as Fragrant Cloud will knock you out.

So of course I had to get it, as well as Scentimental, a candy striped one which came out in 1996. My self-momming has proven to be pretty effective.
Another way to take care of Fabulous Moi is to get a massage now and then, and Barbara Parker is my Marin neighbor who does a great job… in case you’re in search of healing touch.: Bbarbville@aol.com

When Charlie lived at home, we got regular massage, but now massage has been relegated to Extreme Luxury, owing to the cost of Bello Gardens each month.

When I raced I used to do my own legs, and it seemed to help flush the lactic acid from my throbbing quads.

Speaking of which, I did a lap of a really excellent race called Redwood Trail Alliance Dirt Days yesterday. Framebuilers were there, Sycip, Hunter, Retrotec, Fitz, SIM cycles…and terrific weather made the arduous 7 mile lap pure joy, with ceonothus blooming wildly in the backlands. I salute Curtis Inglis, Bike Monkey, and all the volunteers for producing a really memorable couple of days.
I plan to take Charlie to hear music this evening (Bach choral music by Cantata Collective of Berkeley), which will round out the weekend’s fun.

~ by jacquiephelan on May 14, 2023.

One Response to “Happy NonMom’s Day”

  1. Nice to hear/see your words. btw. . .VVA and I are aiming to have a meet and greet kind of event at the mmbhof in Fairfax on June 2nd and am hoping to be able to see you and say hello – : ) I am waiting to hear back if the mmbhof agrees and accepts our application agreement. VVA does not ride anymore, so he is focusing on his writing. I will email if I get more info as I would love to see you!! Karol

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